A Tribe Called Bliss, by Lori Harder

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I stumbled upon Lori Harder when a client had recommended her podcast called Earn your Happy. So, after some intense binge-listening, I heard she released a book based on how she reached her highest potential. I ran out to the only bookstore that had it and bought the last one… and happy danced upon holding it in my hands!!

A Tribe Called Bliss is based on Lori’s journey through dealing with anxiety, loneliness, and disconnection. She describes in detail on how she shed those unfulfilling friendships, and discovered her untapped potential. This book is truly a manual on how to create deeper connections with people, instead of burying deeper inside yourself. It’s also a manual on how to use specific tools that will help you become a better and more whole being.

At this point in my life, I feel like female friendships are interesting. I have some friends I’ve had for a super long time, and those relationships are the ones that feel authentic and always pick up where they leave off. It’s cool if we haven’t talked in a bit, and we always check in on each other, and reach out to each other. BUT, meeting new friends at this stage is such a hard ship to navigate. With a young family, time is limited… and sometimes you may click with someone who could potentially become a really good friend, but the time is so limited that there isn’t much time for it to flourish. Or sometimes these new friendships start off great, and then you start to realize that maybe you didn’t have as much in common as you thought you may have. Either way… it’s a weird thing to struggle with at this stage in my life… but in talking to other women after reading this book, there are a lot of people who feel the same way.

What I loved about this book was it made you really look inside of yourself, and figure out what exactly holds you back from connecting with other people, and most of all, yourself. I’m not really on the level to air all my dirty laundry on here, but I will say that there was one line that made me realize what does hold me back. Upon reading this line, I cried, and cried, and then I journaled.  Another thing resonated with me is that Lori talked about how often we cut people down because of our own insecurities. She talks about how malicious gossip is so hurtful, and there is a difference between that type of gossip, and the processing and venting that can be helpful. Lori shares quotes all through this book, and here’s one that made me go AHA, about gossip;

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. – Eleanor Roosevelt.

One last thing I will share with you that I took away from this book is that Lori Harder must be a huge bookworm, because she even references Anne Shirley. She talks about how she always believed there would be one friend who would be her “bosom buddy”, and that this belief had proven to be untrue. So, as you may guess, anyone who is an Anne fan already feels like a kindred spirit to me.

Anywho, that’s all on this one friends. I’ve been really trying to sprinkle in some more non-fiction, self-help, memoir genre books to give my reading life a little more variety. I hope you’ve enjoyed these reviews as much as I’ve enjoyed reading these books.

Up next, a fiction title that a client has lent me called The Rent Collector. I’m thoroughly enjoying this one, and it also has referenced some great books in it… that’s a win/win, friends!

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You are a Badass at Making Money, by Jen Sincero

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In light of my recent career changes, I picked You are a Badass at Making Money up in attempts to have some hard steps help me grow my business. You may all remember my raving review for You are a Badass… I was/am still obsessed with that book. It was amazing, so I was pretty eager to pick up her next one.

You are a Badass at Making Money is written by world-renowned success coach Jen Sincero. This book is basically a summary of all the decisions that have lead her to becoming a someone who is scraping by in life, to someone who is kicking some serious ass financially.

You can have excuses or you can have success; you can’t have both.

Jen Sincero’s writing is easy to read, and so funny!! This book is filled with quotable lines, in which I have underlined and dog-eared to go back and remind myself. She’s an incredibly wise woman, who definitely believes in the Law of Attraction.

What comes out of your mouth comes into your life.

If you are looking for hard steps/facts that will lead you to financial success, this isn’t your book. Jen Sincero’s approach is a much more modern day, “if you build it, they will come” type method. In a similar vein to You are a Badass, she gives you steps in which to encourage confidence, visualization, and wanting something bad enough to make it happen. While I agree that all these things will put you on the right path to success, I also think that this type of jump-in-with-both-feet-without-thinking attitude can be detrimental. I do believe in a little thing called luck, and that some people do have it. On the other hand, if you never try to do anything how do you know if you aren’t the lucky one??

I really liked this book, I think it’s everything that I want to believe can happen if you truly desire something. But I do think it’s worth saying that there are flaws in it for sure. I don’t think that everyone can afford to take a chance, and this is where the lines get a little muddy. Not everyone can throw caution to the wind and invest in a dream. Dream chasing can be a luxury, that not everyone can afford.

Anywho, that’s all I have to say on this one today! Up next I’m reading Z: A Novel of Zelda Fitzgerald. Let’s just say I’m mildly obsessed with the glamour of the Fitzgerald’s, and I’m excited to share this one with you!

Until next time, happy reading!

Girl, Wash your Face, by Rachel Hollis

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Before I get started… jump on over to your library and grab this book. Or better yet, go buy. Mark it (if you bought it), highlight it, dog-ear it, and be ready to come back to this one over and over. I bet you can guess that I loved this book. If you have’t noticed, I’m on a bit of a self-help binge right now. A book that encourages me to live a more meaningful life… I’m there! But after a couple of these you feel like you’ve read them all. BUT Rachel Hollis nailed this book. It spoke to me on such a level that I actually said aloud to my hubby that this was the book I should have written. It’s the words right out of my mouth.

Here’s the premise… stop believing the lies you tell yourself. Rachel Hollis shares with readers the 20 lies that she has told herself over her lifetime, and how she overcame this narrative that she had told herself for so long. This is where I was sold. I am constantly telling myself “lies”, and even worse… believing them. Sentences such as, you aren’t smart enough, you need to be fitter, you need to eat better, you need to try be prettier, you need to be a better person, are constantly running through my head.

You, and only you, are ultimately responsible for who you become and how happy you are.

I’m going to make an effort to stop watering that negativity plant. I’m going to water positivity, and allow it grow. I am also going to make an effort to surround myself with the people who energize me, and encourage me to be better. This book has shown me that the people who are positive, who wanting to better themselves, and also listen to my crazy ideas, are the ones whom I want to be surrounded by. Let’s just do away with negativity, and self-doubt altogether. It’s reminded me that I can do anything I truly WANT to do. Upon finishing this book I made a list of ridiculous goals, that are really far fetched, but things I really want to do.

Your dream is worth fighting for, and while you’re not in control of what life throws at you, you are in control of the fight.

My new narrative includes, you got this! You are smart, and willing to continually learn. Your body is strong, and my mind is even stronger. You can do anything, as long as you tell yourself this. Life is going to be the story that you are willing to write!

Anywho, that’s all for tonight. Happy reading, friends!

 

You are a Badass, by Jen Sincero

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This book is definitely badass. I’m not one for the “self-help” genre, but every now and then I hear from multiple bookish people that a book is great and I finally cave. I have seen this splashy cover all over Instagram and actually thought there is no chance in hell I will read this book. It sounded cheesy and self-righteous. Like come on, “start living an awesome life”?!? Then I heard the girls on By the Book Podcast recapping their experience of living by this book for two weeks, and chatted with a friend in the same day about how awesome this book was… so I ran on over to Hunter Street Books to buy it.

You are a Badass is a book aimed at people who want to improve their lives. Jen Sincero is a success coach, and a writer, who has documented the process on how to start understanding yourself, and start kicking some ass!

If you want more time in your life, show time some respect.

This book has so much great information, but the main thing is… it’s all things that we know, but just aren’t putting to practice. Sincero gives some really honest, and great advice. The one thing that really rang loudly for me was changing my internal story. I’ve been juggling two jobs for awhile. One where I work at a clinic, another where I am self-employed and trying to build my own business. And in all honesty, I’m exhausted lately, and tired of saying how busy I am. Sincero had said to try changing your story to let’s just see… and maybe from there you can start giving it a shot. For a long time my internal story was I need to keep both jobs for security, because what if my business doesn’t work. Well, from now on I’m just gonna see if I can really make it work. I finished this book, and decided that I need to quit my one job, and really make space for my business to grow and flourish.

I have lived a long life, and had many troubles, most of which ever happened. – Mark Twain

Another thing that this book reminded me was that I’m the WORST procrastinator ever! I will literally put something off to the very last minute, then run around like crazy to get the job done. You are a Badass totally kicked me out of that procrastination habit… for awhile. Let’s see how long that lasts 🙂

Well… honestly I could go ON and ON about this book, and the lessons that it reminded me and taught me. I have dog-eared, and highlighted the shit out of this book, and I have also reflected back on it so many times already. It’s an easy-to-read, full of sarcasm, and completely inspiring book. I suggest it whole-heartedly, and am literally telling everyone I meet about it.

Anywho, until next time, happy reading!!

 

How to Make Love like a Porn Star, by Jenna Jameson

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Okay… I know what your thinking!!! This is definitely not my typical book, but over the last couple years I’ve had some friends suggest this autobiography. I really enjoyed Jenna Jameson’s autobiography, and found myself flipping through the pages at a crazy pace. Below I am listing a couple things that you need to know about this book before you run out to pick it up:

  • This is not a manual.
  • There are some pretty racy scenes, and explicit language.
  • There are pictures.
  • It’s about 600 pages long.
  • Your jaw will drop MANY times throughout this book.

How to Make Love Like a Porn Star is Jenna Jameson’s life story. It is heartbreaking at times, but also extremely feminist at times. I thought I would find this book so inaccessible for me, but I found myself relating to her. The writing style was just like you sat down and had a conversation with Jenna. I found myself so empathetic towards her.

Usually I do not like autobiographies, or biographies, mostly because I find them a bit self-righteous. This one is not like that, she sees her past trauma, and her flaws. The magic in this book is observing Jenna gaining that self awareness to a point in which she able to regain her life back.

I think that if you are looking for a summer read, and aren’t afraid of the bullet points I put up at the top… this would be the PERFECT beach/cottage read. You find yourself so absorbed in the book that 100 pages goes by and you realize that you are running behind!

Until next time, happy reading friends!

The Four Tendencies, by Gretchen Rubin

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If you have seen My Happiness Project, or my review on Gretchen Rubin’s book The Happiness Project, you will probably see how much I admire her work. She takes practical small tasks, and shows you how to use them to transform into big results. BUT I will say that The Four Tendencies wasn’t my favourite of hers. This book just seemed like it was a repeat Better than Before…. which happened to be a book that I found really useful. Here’s a quick synopsis:

Gretchen Rubin believes that there are two types of people this world… one that divide the world into categories, and the other who do not. She is a categorizer, and believes that there are 4 different types of people: the Upholder, the Questioner, the Obliger, and the Rebel. This book is basically a road map for how to handle your own personality, the people around you, and how it can affect you in different areas in your life.

If personality books interest you, pop over to Gretchen Rubin’s quiz to see what category you are. I am an Upholder… and that comes as no surprise to me. I fit into this category so easily… one thing that really confirmed it was that I constantly hear people say “How do you have time to do what you do?” and my answer is always… “I make it”. And that is one thing that the Upholder will always do, find a way to make it work, or give it up. It’s really fun to see what category you fit into, and she gives great advice on how to motivate yourself, and deal with other types of people. You should definitely check the quiz out!

I think this book would be a great addition to a library of someone who works in the public sector. Being an RMT I find it hard sometimes to motivate different types of people to do homecare, but reading this book helps you understand just exactly what motivates some people and how you can use that to get them doing their tasks. I also think this book was a great realization of how and why your brain functions the way it does, and that it’s okay for you to be the way you are!

Anywho, that’s all about this one. Like I said not my favourite, but still very insightful. So now head on over to do her quiz, and in the comments tell me what category you fit into!

Until next time, happy reading!